Our children have seen a lot, and chances are, they’ll continue to see a lot as the years go by. They see us in our cringy lovey dovey moments, just like they see us when we’re at each other’s throat. These days, for example, they see an abundance of love, affection and unity, whereas a few months ago they witnessed quite a lot of anger and pain as I struggled with aspects of my mental health.Continue reading “Why I no longer feel bad about my children seeing the less pretty side of marriage”
This is one of those posts where I must begin with a disclaimer. I’m no psychologist or relationship expert, but for quite some time now I’ve been on a journey to be a lot more zen, calm and composed than ever. And these are the things that are working for me right now.
Lately I’ve been thinking about the importance of investing in our marriage, and what this actually means in tangible terms.
I’ve been blogging for many years, and when an idea for a post like this one comes to mind, I always feel conflicted about how much I really need to share, what I should say, how I should phrase it, who it will appeal to and for what purpose… If you’ve been following me for a while you’ll know that with any topic I write about, I choose my words very carefully. I’m always overly conscious of the fact that my blog is accessible to people I wouldn’t necessarily choose to have such open conversations with in every day life – my younger brothers, my parents, to name a few. I’m also aware through my analytics that my posts are being read and shared by people on every continent, and therefore as much as I enjoy sharing aspects of my life on what I consider to be my very own ‘safe space’, this medium is paradoxically everything but safe.
This month was our wedding anniversary month. On 07.07.07 my husband Rom and I said “I do” in front of our friends and family. I was relatively young, emotionally fragile, wearing a white dress I probably shouldn’t have gone for… but in love nonetheless and determined to spend the rest of my life with this man I had met two years prior. And from that moment on, our lives changed for better.